Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Saying Sorry after a fight - Tips

It is said, "Love means never having to say you are sorry". However, this is not entirely true. At times, you need to say sorry after a fight, just to let your partner know that you realize your mistake. Saying sorry does not lower your self-respect. Infact, it helps in bridging the barrier created between the two of you because of a fight. You should never ever hesitate to sorry if you are at fault. However, most of the people do not how to say sorry after a fight. And, even though they are feeling apologetic, they fail to convey the same.



In the following lines, we have provided tips on saying sorry and making up after a fight…

  • Say sorry only when you mean it. Saying sorry after a fight just to avoid further argument does not help. This is so because deep down you still feel that you were right and your partner was wrong. The issue does not get resolved and the next time even a smallest of mistake by your partner will snowball into a major issue and all the old matters will be raised again, leaving both of you frustrated.

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  • Do not take too much time in saying sorry. Saying sorry after a week will mean nothing. However, do take some time to think about your apology. It should not look as if you are saying sorry just for the heck of it.

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  • While saying sorry, do not bring up old issues or do not refer to the mistakes of your partner. You are here to accept your mistakes and not to criticize.

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  • Do not say sorry on the phone, through sms or via e-mail. It will hurt your partner even more. If you feel you have done something wrong, have the courage to say that you are sorry.

 

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  • After saying sorry, wait for the reaction of your partner. Give him/her an opportunity to vent his/her feelings, hurt as well as anger. Be patient and only after he/she is through, give your explanation.

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